Many lifestyle coaches, councillors and academics will say that if there is anything you want in life you have to get it. You have to envision it and focus on that. The ability to get what you want.
It doesnt matter if it is a person, place or thing. Work hard at achieving your goals. If you are looking for a mate, dont sit at home. If you want something material then you have to work to get the money to buy it. If you want to further your academic learning, you must study diligently. Simple. Work for what you want.
You will get what your after if you do and persevere.